Why settle for a “second chance” when God is offering you a brand new beginning! God doesn’t require us to “die to self” by taking away our dreams to teach us something. That is religious thinking! He asks us to die to who we think we are outside of Jesus because that person is dead! When we think we are still “that person”, we will continue to live the life of “that person” and miss the abundant life of Jesus. Transformation doesn’t come by information, but by revelation. To the degree is see God as He is, to that degree I am transformed into his likeness.